Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope.“I don’t want to fall in love with anyone else until it is ‘the right one,’” I told God.His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.
And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated.
Don’t get me wrong, you could probably make your current relationship work.
Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.
I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.
When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.